Agreed on the steering and interior limitations. That said, I am very happy overall with my car after owing an e46 for 10 years. I really do not miss it at all.
Have you looked into BMW Individual, I did not think it was available at the time I ordered, but based on your time frame, I would expect that if you are willing to pay a bit more, you should be able to get exactly what you want, Also, I would recommend getting the HUd, dynamic handling option and m-sport package.
2013 F30 335i 6MT M-Sport - Blk Saph. / Beige Lthr / Wood Tr. - Tech Pk - VSS M-Adp. Susp. M-Perf Stainless Exhaust M-Perf. brakes