Nearly every model of the 3 series comes with Servotronic steering: that's what gives the different modes, different weights and different feel. The VSS option is only to aid parking and navigating tight spaces by increasing the steering ratio beyond 100 degrees of lock. The
feel of Servotronic and VSS is identical
So yes, I'm afraid you and everyone else who ordered VSS has wasted their money and been conned by BMW marketing speak. They should have called it comfort steering or lady's parking steering or something because it has nothing to do with sportiness
The Americans get very excitable when you tell them this