[zx10guy]

Originally Posted by Blksnowflake

this for me too.
Buying a house makes you just as married, maybe more than a wedding....legally speaking.

So what does making a person who is married and also own a home? Married plus?

[FType22]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

No one said it will happen for sure. Like I said, it's only a thought as I recall some on here have done just that. I was more curious about the good and bad of it. You don't know me well enough to judge me. And for what it's worth I don't think that I am ready for it at this point. But I Personally know some who have done that and the thought came to me and thus wanted to see what the majority on here thinks.

Not sure what gave you the impression that I need your approval. If it's something I want to do I would do it. I couldn't careless what you personally think. But as I mentioned, this thread is more of a survey than anything.

Just warning you, this threads can get pretty polarizing and attacks come at you from people who think they know your life, relationship, and everything in between.

Looking at the question as though a buddy was asking me, I would probably say that if you're looking to marry her, then buying a house isn't that big of a deal, some people will have an order of operations of how to do things, but nowadays that stuff is so dependent on numerous factors. If you guys already live together don't expect things to change for the good or bad in terms of her suddenly becoming more domestic, or vice versa. That was one of your concerns with your first line. Everything in life is an adjustment right? And what is life without risks? Some are larger than others, but trust your girl, if you can't marry her, you shouldn't buy a house. If this thing is for real then don't get bogged down by shitty internet advice from people who have a negative view of everyone else's relationships.

[1MOREMOD]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

$25k wedding? That's cheap as hell.

Aren't you Asian op? My original budget was $100k LOL

You're doing it wrong spent under 10 including 3 week honeymoon fool.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

just making sure where your mind is. some of your posts jump from one thing to another with no hesitation. one thing at a time! lol

Yeah I tend to think of too many things at once sometimes. Haha

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

$25k wedding? That's cheap as hell.

Aren't you Asian op? My original budget was $100k LOL

Yes, I am Asian. And hell no $100k. That's insane! I hate the whole 500-1,000 guests weddings. Bet the bride and groom don't even know most of them.

[1MOREMOD]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Yes, I am Asian. And hell no $100k. That's insane! I hate the whole 500-1,000 guests weddings. Bet the bride and groom don't even know most of them.

Invite all your exes can get to 500 easy.

[brianeck]

My SO f80 is perfectly happy in the garage and does not need another house at this time

[Xiaoxi]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

$25k wedding? That's cheap as hell.

Aren't you Asian op? My original budget was $100k LOL

I aspire to keep it under $2000

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Yes, I am Asian. And hell no $100k. That's insane! I hate the whole 500-1,000 guests weddings. Bet the bride and groom don't even know most of them.

but most guests will give big gifts and prizes so you have to try to recoup. we should move this to the excel thread.

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

You're doing it wrong spent under 10 including 3 week honeymoon fool.

that's how we roll - it ended up around $50k including honeymoon. still too much.

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by Xiaoxi

I aspire to keep it under $2000

lol

[1MOREMOD]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

but most guests will give big gifts and prizes so you have to try to recoup. we should move this to the excel thread.

You can have a reception and recieve every but as much without spending the dough.

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

You can have a reception and recieve every but as much without spending the dough.

not these asians - in return they need to be catered to.

[1MOREMOD]

Get some white friends

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by M3 Number 86

but most guests will give big gifts and prizes so you have to try to recoup. we should move this to the excel thread.

I think that is the Asian thinking and it's the only reason why they invite so many people. No joke.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

Invite all your exes can get to 500 easy.

Being Asian, just family, extended family, and family friends alone would probably get me to 200. And that's just family, not including friends, for just my side. You do have to walk around during reception and say hi to everyone so high number of invitees gets tiring...

[PoorLurker]

I think people need photos of her to make a more formal opinion about her trust worthiness.



I highly suggest waiting. People move at different speeds in terms of relationship. Are you two both "get married" types of people? If so, then wait until marriage. If you are not get married types of people, then that is a different discussion as I would need to see where you are in your relationship.

[sygazelle]

It's called co-buying and its a thing.

It can be a good or bad idea, depending on if you take the time to prepare a contract. Here is a link to Nolo on the topic.



Good luck!

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclope...ome-30290.html

[PoorLurker]

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

Get some white friends

White friends buy you a blender.


Asians bring this



$$$$

[Templar]

I'm not reading the whole thread, but I was where you are.

I bought the house myself, with my money and credit, then had my SO move in later. We got married, so it didn't matter much anyway. I knew with her income plus mine, we could split the mortgage and it'd be better financially for both of us, but I loved her then so I let that make my mind up for me. Luckily it worked out and we have a family and all is well.

That being said, I'd only buy a house *with* her (i.e. she's on the mortgage too) if you're going to marry this chick. My sister bought a house with her fiance and wound up getting screwed because they called the wedding off (he turned out to be quite the prick). She bought the house with him, she put more money into it initially, they wound up losing money, just an overall shitty situation. Unless you're positive about this girl, I wouldn't buy the house with her. Just rent a place for now, no rush to buy a home. Or if you really wanna buy a house, buy it yourself.

[zx10guy]

Originally Posted by PoorLurker

White friends buy you a blender.


Asians bring this



$$$$

A camera?

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by sygazelle

It's called co-buying and its a thing.

It can be a good or bad idea, depending on if you take the time to prepare a contract. Here is a link to Nolo on the topic.

Good luck!

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclope...ome-30290.html

Thought about this a year or two ago with some friends but decided not to. Too many cooks in the kitchen.