Ok... so I am only missing one module then I can begin working on the retrofit. I have been working with my local dealer to obtain to wire piggy backs to add in the extra grounds needed. We were having trouble locating the right wire via computer so I pulled my connector to take a look.
As you can see this is nothing like the one posted by the OP. However, assuming everything on the FEM module side are the same, it should be ok. I will still have to add in the two grounds to four and seven and then move the #12 to #8 or add in a whole new wire to #8 and route it to the FEM module.
I will look inside the car when I get a chance to see what it looks like there and post my findings.