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      08-14-2018, 04:02 AM   #89
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I'm feeling shocking with anxiety this morning. Woke up at 5am feeling absolutely consumed by it.

We are traveling on holiday to Tenerife and it's the whole airport thing I hate. It's not so much a fear of flying but I hate the feeling of sometimes feeling faint and dizzy in crowded places like airports.

Going buisness class as well. I feel a right miserable anxious idiot. Holidays are supposed to be exciting.

Sorry my anxious rant over.
Hopefully business class will get you the use of a decent lounge away from the madding crowds. Try to ease the anxiety by not rushing and not feeling that the (inevitable) queues are a problem.

Depending on the airport, use the queuing time to admire the work of the architects - which we mostly ignore as we rush through. This will be easier at Heathrow than Luton, admittedly. Avoid taking photos though

Not sure if moderate alcohol worsens or lessens things for you, but if a soothing glass of red helps then at least you get that in business.

Good luck. Focus on Tenerife and lounging in the sun
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Ps. You are not an idiot. Airports are stressful places and most feel varying forms of stress/anxiety around them - whether they are conscious of it or not.

PPS. Holiday flights in August - bound to be some interesting people watching opportunities, largely bad and some good
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Well so far so good. I have managed not to make myself look like someone from an episode of banged up abroad.

South terminal at Gatwick is absolutely manic so pleased to have the comfort of the BA lounge to be honest. Although the anxiety did hit me more funnily enough again when I did sit down in the lounge. Had some food and a couple of glasses of wine and feel much better.

Off to the gate now.
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Good man, enjoy the trip and stay strong.
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Thanks all for the support.

Ps. I have kept up with the therapy appointments on a 2-3 week basis. Not cheap at £75 a session. So far not feeling a massive improvement to be honest but I will stick with it. The therapist has mainly focused on hypnotherapy. We have just started with CBT and I have been given homework to on this. I've downloaded something on Amazon audio on CBT to listen to also when I am away. Also been told to keep up with the mindfulness mediation.

Talking on here massively helps also once in a while and I really appreciate the feedback on here even if it's just light hearted humour.

I know others on here have posted in regard to mental health issues so I hope you are all doing well?
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Great to hear that you are still taking positive action and that you got through Gatwick largely unscathed! Have a great trip
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Thanks all for the support.

Ps. I have kept up with the therapy appointments on a 2-3 week basis. Not cheap at £75 a session. So far not feeling a massive improvement to be honest but I will stick with it. The therapist has mainly focused on hypnotherapy. We have just started with CBT and I have been given homework to on this. I've downloaded something on Amazon audio on CBT to listen to also when I am away. Also been told to keep up with the mindfulness mediation.

Talking on here massively helps also once in a while and I really appreciate the feedback on here even if it's just light hearted humour.

I know others on here have posted in regard to mental health issues so I hope you are all doing well?
CBT can work wonders. I had it few years back to deal with work stress and resulting insomnia. It honestly change my life and the person I am. It made me able to identify the root cause of the issues and deal with them in a way that I felt allowed me to take back control. Very, very empowering experience and itís truly changed my life for the better.
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I had a wobble about 2 years ago, I couldnít think straight, I couldnít rationalise things and was suffering with headaches and insomnia.

It was not long after we had our second child, work was tough and Iíd just committed to a big house project plus the wife and kids had gone to Spain to visit her parents.

I went to the doctors with the intention of getting some sleeping pills or something, anything.

He started talking to me and diagnosed stress and anxiety on the spot and signed me off for a month, not something I wanted and my first response was ďI canít Iíve got too much on in work!Ē

Anyway I had to take the month and felt much better for it, I did have counselling which kind of helped but I realised quickly what the trigger had been, a combination of the above.

I still get bouts and probably always will, they can often be brought on by too much alcohol and tiredness, if I act responsibly (which is tough in itself )then I tend to be pretty much ok.

Talking to my friends and family revealed that virtually every single one of the fellas I know have suffered to one degree or another.

As a parent to 2 boys itís something Iím trying to instil in them that if they donít feel right then they must talk to somebody, anybody.

I think I was pretty lucky really compared to an awful lot of other people.

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Enjoy your holiday fella & thank you for posting on here, it might well help someone else reading & thinking that's him or her.

Wish you well & good on you for continuing with the sessions & talking about it to all your internet friends.
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It really does help to talk about things rather than suffer in silence and let people wonder what's up with you as they will always jump to the wrong conclusions.

I had a an issue with going to the states every year for a conference in LA I hated it, it stressed me out and made me ill, eventually I spoke to my boss explained the situation and he was golden couldn't have been more understanding.

I still go, but with him understanding my situation he just lets me do my own thing without being part of the main group so I can float in and out which has made me more effective out there so it's a win win.

And a great relief for me...it's never as bad as you think and you're never alone.
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I had a wobble about 2 years ago, I couldnít think straight, I couldnít rationalise things and was suffering with headaches and insomnia.

It was not long after we had our second child, work was tough and Iíd just committed to a big house project plus the wife and kids had gone to Spain to visit her parents.

I went to the doctors with the intention of getting some sleeping pills or something, anything.

He started talking to me and diagnosed stress and anxiety on the spot and signed me off for a month, not something I wanted and my first response was ďI canít Iíve got too much on in work!Ē

Anyway I had to take the month and felt much better for it, I did have counselling which kind of helped but I realised quickly what the trigger had been, a combination of the above.

I still get bouts and probably always will, they can often be brought on by too much alcohol and tiredness, if I act responsibly (which is tough in itself )then I tend to be pretty much ok.

Talking to my friends and family revealed that virtually every single one of the fellas I know have suffered to one degree or another.

As a parent to 2 boys itís something Iím trying to instil in them that if they donít feel right then they must talk to somebody, anybody.

I think I was pretty lucky really compared to an awful lot of other people.

Hangovers are a big trigger for me also. I don't drink too much to be fair but when I do have one to many coupled with a late night it definitely brings on the anxiety the next day. Although on plus side a few drinks when I'm feeling a bit anxious socially can help.

Interesting that you have spoken to friends and family and quite a few have suffered also. I have a good group of mates but I have never spoken with them about this as I have felt to ebarrased if I'm honest.
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I had a wobble about 2 years ago, I couldn’t think straight, I couldn’t rationalise things and was suffering with headaches and insomnia.

It was not long after we had our second child, work was tough and I’d just committed to a big house project plus the wife and kids had gone to Spain to visit her parents.

I went to the doctors with the intention of getting some sleeping pills or something, anything.

He started talking to me and diagnosed stress and anxiety on the spot and signed me off for a month, not something I wanted and my first response was “I can’t I’ve got too much on in work!”

Anyway I had to take the month and felt much better for it, I did have counselling which kind of helped but I realised quickly what the trigger had been, a combination of the above.

I still get bouts and probably always will, they can often be brought on by too much alcohol and tiredness, if I act responsibly (which is tough in itself )then I tend to be pretty much ok.

Talking to my friends and family revealed that virtually every single one of the fellas I know have suffered to one degree or another.

As a parent to 2 boys it’s something I’m trying to instil in them that if they don’t feel right then they must talk to somebody, anybody.

I think I was pretty lucky really compared to an awful lot of other people.

Hangovers are a big trigger for me also. I don't drink too much to be fair but when I do have one to many coupled with a late night it definitely brings on the anxiety the next day. Although on plus side a few drinks when I'm feeling a bit anxious socially can help.

Interesting that you have spoken to friends and family and quite a few have suffered also. I have a good group of mates but I have never spoken with them about this as I have felt to ebarrased if I'm honest.
Bring it up, in my experience it was a relief that somebody had, trust me it will open up a very valuable conversation.

You will be very surprised trust me.

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Worth a watch guys on bbc iplayer, regarding male suicide.

Horizon, 2018: 6. Stopping Male Suicide: www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b0bgv82g via @bbciplayer
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