Any single dads on here? Need to vent!

Grant_7 · 06-10-2021, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by isleaiw1

None. Never spent a night in hospital for myself in my life (except of course when I was born as in my day mums stayed about 5 days!)

No ops, no breaks, no nothing - yet.....

You're not missing out!

isleaiw1 · 06-10-2021, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Grant_7

You're not missing out!

Done my fair share of staying for others - daughter with kidney failure at 13, wife with a whole fistful of failures a few years ago. Not my idea of fun and I never want to have to do it again....!

agentorange · 06-11-2021, 12:38 AM

Wait, the cast is coming off in a week but you cannot drive for six? You would be uninsured? On whose authority? Sorry if these sound like stupid questions but I've been out of the UK for over 20 years.

Over here I broke my hand in 2013 in a freak household accident. My hand was in a cast for about 3-4 weeks I think, maybe less. The only time not driving was mentioned was in regard to painkillers.

mcscoobs · 06-11-2021, 02:31 AM

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Wait, the cast is coming off in a week but you cannot drive for six? You would be uninsured? On whose authority? Sorry if these sound like stupid questions but I've been out of the UK for over 20 years.

Over here I broke my hand in 2013 in a freak household accident. My hand was in a cast for about 3-4 weeks I think, maybe less. The only time not driving was mentioned was in regard to painkillers.

That's just what my surgeon said - in case I got a sudden burst of pain when then impacted my driving

mcscoobs · 06-14-2021, 07:03 PM

iUpdate for those (if any!) that are interested...

I had my boys this weekend. Felt guilty that I couldn't do much, but my gf, parents and sister all mucked in and made it happen.. so glad I did! I have them the next 3 weekends on the trot now too.

Interestingly, in my initial post, I mentioned the ex had a hotel booked? Turns out the email "booking confirmation" she screenshotted me, was fake. It was of her friends hotel booking for a different day. There was no hotel booking, no theatre tickets. She spent all weekend at home... Wtf? Why go to all that effort?

In ways I'm even more glad I had my boys... think they are better off with me with one hand than they are with a Mum like that!

Our court order states we share the journeys on my weekends. She's point blank refused to to do both journeys for the next 3 weeks until I can drive again, because she couldn't care less if the boys see me or not. Lovely woman eh?

When she got home with the boys on Sunday night, she put up a selfie with them on Instagram, saying how much she missed them and hates being away from them.... cue all the "you're such an amazing mum" comments from her friends. Talk about being a mum for show... she's had them for ONE weekend out of 7, as she'd rather go out drinking with her mates on her weekends.... Words escape me...

isleaiw1 · 06-15-2021, 03:25 AM

As you say, you are glad you had them. Ignore IG and FB, everyone knows they are no way a reflection of the truth (including all the friends who posted as their's will be the same, she no doubt tells them how hard it is being a single mum...)

A good friend had similar issues a good few years ago when his wife split with him. Funnily enough he sees much more of his now grown up kids than his ex does and apparently she doesnt understand why....

KRS_SN · 06-15-2021, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by mcscoobs

iUpdate for those (if any!) that are interested...

I had my boys this weekend. Felt guilty that I couldn't do much, but my gf, parents and sister all mucked in and made it happen.. so glad I did! I have them the next 3 weekends on the trot now too.

Interestingly, in my initial post, I mentioned the ex had a hotel booked? Turns out the email "booking confirmation" she screenshotted me, was fake. It was of her friends hotel booking for a different day. There was no hotel booking, no theatre tickets. She spent all weekend at home... Wtf? Why go to all that effort?

In ways I'm even more glad I had my boys... think they are better off with me with one hand than they are with a Mum like that!

Our court order states we share the journeys on my weekends. She's point blank refused to to do both journeys for the next 3 weeks until I can drive again, because she couldn't care less if the boys see me or not. Lovely woman eh?

When she got home with the boys on Sunday night, she put up a selfie with them on Instagram, saying how much she missed them and hates being away from them.... cue all the "you're such an amazing mum" comments from her friends. Talk about being a mum for show... she's had them for ONE weekend out of 7, as she'd rather go out drinking with her mates on her weekends.... Words escape me...

her sole aim in all of this seems to be to pile more misery on you when you are already miserable for medical reasons.
The only silver lining is that you are you and she is 'she' and she has to live with 'she' all life and you dont.

SuperHamz · 06-15-2021, 07:48 AM

Ultimately, your kids are benefiting from spending time with their father - isn't the that complaint of most separated families is that their dad's have gone awol?

This sacrifice on your part is going to be completely worth it.

Rbrown · 06-15-2021, 01:59 PM

Sounds like a nightmare.

How is the hand feeling? If you need to take your bandages off, best to put the hand in water when you get to the blue gauze bandages covering your stitches. It will float off.

I found that out after I pulled the blue stuff off.....wasn't pleasant!!!

M33DLO · 06-15-2021, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by mcscoobs

iUpdate for those (if any!) that are interested...

Interestingly, in my initial post, I mentioned the ex had a hotel booked? Turns out the email "booking confirmation" she screenshotted me, was fake. It was of her friends hotel booking for a different day. There was no hotel booking, no theatre tickets. She spent all weekend at home... Wtf? Why go to all that effort?

When she got home with the boys on Sunday night, she put up a selfie with them on Instagram, saying how much she missed them and hates being away from them.... cue all the "you're such an amazing mum" comments from her friends. Talk about being a mum for show... she's had them for ONE weekend out of 7, as she'd rather go out drinking with her mates on her weekends.... Words escape me...

Oooff...! Now that is properly taking the biscuit. !
She actually spent the whole time at home in the end!?!
And then the Insta selfie.. Ohh my, I'd have to calm myself down lots after seeing that.

06-11-2021, 12:38 AM	#47
agentorange Major 1508 Rep 1,385 Posts Drives: 328d Join Date: Nov 2018 Location: Desert SW iTrader: (0)	Wait, the cast is coming off in a week but you cannot drive for six? You would be uninsured? On whose authority? Sorry if these sound like stupid questions but I've been out of the UK for over 20 years. Over here I broke my hand in 2013 in a freak household accident. My hand was in a cast for about 3-4 weeks I think, maybe less. The only time not driving was mentioned was in regard to painkillers.
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06-14-2021, 07:03 PM	#49
mcscoobs First Lieutenant 169 Rep 309 Posts Drives: F31 335d xDrive Join Date: Aug 2020 Location: Amersham, Bucks iTrader: (0)	iUpdate for those (if any!) that are interested... I had my boys this weekend. Felt guilty that I couldn't do much, but my gf, parents and sister all mucked in and made it happen.. so glad I did! I have them the next 3 weekends on the trot now too. Interestingly, in my initial post, I mentioned the ex had a hotel booked? Turns out the email "booking confirmation" she screenshotted me, was fake. It was of her friends hotel booking for a different day. There was no hotel booking, no theatre tickets. She spent all weekend at home... Wtf? Why go to all that effort? In ways I'm even more glad I had my boys... think they are better off with me with one hand than they are with a Mum like that! Our court order states we share the journeys on my weekends. She's point blank refused to to do both journeys for the next 3 weeks until I can drive again, because she couldn't care less if the boys see me or not. Lovely woman eh? When she got home with the boys on Sunday night, she put up a selfie with them on Instagram, saying how much she missed them and hates being away from them.... cue all the "you're such an amazing mum" comments from her friends. Talk about being a mum for show... she's had them for ONE weekend out of 7, as she'd rather go out drinking with her mates on her weekends.... Words escape me...
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isleaiw1 Lieutenant General 8755 Rep 12,234 Posts Drives: iPace / Mini Join Date: Jul 2016 Location: UK iTrader: (0)	As you say, you are glad you had them. Ignore IG and FB, everyone knows they are no way a reflection of the truth (including all the friends who posted as their's will be the same, she no doubt tells them how hard it is being a single mum...) A good friend had similar issues a good few years ago when his wife split with him. Funnily enough he sees much more of his now grown up kids than his ex does and apparently she doesnt understand why....
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Rbrown Brigadier General 2765 Rep 4,576 Posts Drives: X3 M40i Join Date: Jun 2015 Location: Glasgow iTrader: (0)	Sounds like a nightmare. How is the hand feeling? If you need to take your bandages off, best to put the hand in water when you get to the blue gauze bandages covering your stitches. It will float off. I found that out after I pulled the blue stuff off.....wasn't pleasant!!!
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